Some women in Abuja has began to massively protest against the discrimination of women marrying younger men, while the society see nothing wrong in men having much younger wives.
According to report some women in the Federal Capital Territory, Abuja, on Thursday, reacted against discrimination in Nigeria against women marrying younger men, while seeing nothing wrong in men having much younger wives.
The women said that they had been discriminated, judged and labelled “sugar mummy” for marrying men they were older than.
A businesswoman identified as Esther David, said she was five years older than her husband, who is also into the same business with her. She added that she married her husband because of love, admiration and respect she had for him, and not because she was desperate to get married as alleged by some persons.
“Our society tends to judge women negatively for marrying younger men, even if that relationship was borne out of love and respect for each other.
“But the same society sees nothing wrong if a man marries someone that he is old enough to even be her grandfather.”
She added that she faced a lot of challenges from her in-laws due to the age difference before she was fully accepted as his wife, despite performing the traditional, Christian and even the court wedding.
Bose Ade, a mother of two said:
“At first, it was very difficult for me to accept his marriage proposal because I was far older than him with over eight years.
“But I was later convinced by his persistence and support from his family that he was not dissuaded by our age differences.”
However, she added that even though she was accepted by her in-laws, she still faces discrimination from some of his relatives and the neighbourhood they reside in.
According to her:
“I don’t have problem with my in-laws, it is just some distant relatives of his and people in our area who still gossip and call me names like old woman, and all sorts because he looks younger than I do.
“I choose to ignore them and make sure I exhibit love and affection for my husband just to spite them,” she said.
However, Fatima Musa, an unemployed graduate said:
“Women naturally look older than men. So if you marry someone younger in age, one might end up looking like his mother or elder sister than his wife, especially when one starts bearing children.”
Idris Samaila shared his own view:
“Age is just a figure that people put so much emphasis on. It does not matter if a woman is older than her husband or the husband is older than the wife as it is commonly practised in our society,the main issue we should be concerned about is how to build our homes within the tenets of our religious believes, as well as sharing love and understanding.’’
“The claim that marrying a younger man would make him disrespectful to one in the future is a flimsy excuse, because I have seen instances where a matured man marries a woman like his daughter’s age mate and she still does not have respect for him, He therefore appealed to the society to shun any form of discrimination against men or women, who marry much younger spouses.¨
Also, “For Nigerians not to reduce the rate of illegitimate children in the society,the sanctity of marriage within the religious or traditional belief should be encouraged.” Mr. Samaila added.